I Love You More! #love #passion #nurture #caring

We all get tied up with the everyday humdrum of our lives.  We have people to see, places to go, careers to build, family and friends to care for! But, do we take for granted the person we fell in love with? It is easy to take them for granted - that they know you love them, deeply, passionately and with a forever kind of love. I know I fall short in this department.  We take it for granted that they just know.

 Just as children need nurturing, a gentle touch, and encouragement to grow into a caring, loving and compassionate human beings, so does the love that we share with our partners.  Like the roses we grow, the pets we have, they all need attention to detail to make sure they develop to their greatest potential.
Even as adults, we flourish and grow with the nurturing of love. We can't just feed it once or twice and expect it to grow without some attention. We need add some fertilizer for the soul. We really do keep growing till our last breath.
 
I know I love my man. I know that when we are apart it is like walking on one foot. I am not whole when he is not around. I think of his funny little ways, his funny little lingo, our mutual funny little lingo.  I miss the looks he gives (Ok some I don't miss!) but I do miss those quirky glances, those off beat nuances, those little expressions of love. Things we take for granted until they are not there.

As Bette Midler sings, 'We all have memories of loves and lives of people' and 'things we have affection for them all' but, 'inside we love the person we are with more'.  We don't lose those memories good or bad but, this person is our constant.  Therefore, I really have to give, touch, feel and express my love more often.  Don't expect him to be a mind reader that the love is still there.

It is quite easy to assume but, sometimes we look around and wonder why that person has gone. Why that person couldn't see I was busy?  Did my lover not know I have my career? Couldn't  he/she keep up to my pace?  I am a loving caring guy and I have to spread my caring beyond our doors. I have family and friends, didn't he/she see that?

You can throw a dog a bone, but does that mean you are his best friend? No, that dog needs a gentle pat, some grooming, a walk in the park, someone to have a little play and above all acknowledge that they are there.

Yes, we all get busy with the daily grind! But, unless we take them by the hand, say, 'I love you,' thank them for being there,and enjoy some 'one on one' with them, one day we may find they have not followed.  So what we need is to do, is tell them often, that no one compares and I love you more.

Now I have to go and speak our lingo and tap him 3 times, give him a hug to remind him 'I love you'.

Cheers!

Bitchescoz  

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  In My Life - Bette Midler

Life's Pleasures #inspirational #love #heaven #truelove

Today, I am going to talk to you about the pleasures of life, about sharing experiences with your partner or your loved ones.  Think how nice it would be to stroll down the cobbled streets of the oldest streets in Rome with your partner, dine in the most chic restaurants in Paris, share your berth, your bed and romantic views from your own balcony aboard 'The Christina' on the Mediterranean. Meandering hand in hand through the zig zag of narrow streets of Venice, making wishes on the Bridal Bridge in Central Park.  STOP THE PRESS!!! You have no money to do these things!  How do we enjoy the pleasures of life without money?

Do we really need a lot of money to give us pleasure?  Does money bring us happiness? Do diamonds and pearls assure us of love, romance, and true commitment from our partner?  Yes, they are nice, but do these things really give us that warm feeling inside? That feeling, that you are special? That feeling that special person gives you when you touch! That feeling that you can bare your soul and not care what others think but that one person.  To look in their eyes and know without hesitation that that special person sees you, and not cares that you have that little zit on your face.  That person sees beyond your imperfections and, loves you for you.  That person wants to share the ups the downs and everything in between - with you! All they ask in return is that you share your love and build hearts filled with love not money.

How often do we read in the tabloids of the rich and famous - of their romance, their fairytale weddings, their honeymoons in the most desired destinations of the world.  Quite often in our lunch hours, while shopping for some groceries, in our mere mortal workday drudgery we purchase a magazine. We rush back to the drudgery and think, 'Tonight I will escape into the world of glamour and read about a life of which I can only dream.'  But, maybe if I just grab a quickpic, my partner and I can maybe join this glamorous couple once our numbers pop out of the shoot in tonight's jackpot.

You get home, after driving yourself through that peak hour traffic and unpack the groceries. You water the garden, share with your partner how your day was while you are ironing tomorrow's clothes and he is preparing dinner. You trample through the bills that need paying, feed the dog, wash the clothes for tomorrow's iron. You eat, then clean the dishes, and finally sit down on the couch to share your magazine of escapism and watch the numbers drop on your screen. Your partner sits with pen and paper to collect the numbers and, as he shares the numbers that weren't on your ticket, he turns to you and says, 'Hey honey, the headlines say that Mr and Mrs Famous have split!' This is before you have even opened the magazine!!!  You close the magazine, throw it on the coffee table along with the million other unread mags, fall into his arms and toddle off to bed to share the passion with him (a passion that gets better every night). In the after glow, you lay there thinking in your not so dream destination bed, how wonderful it is to share your life with someone who loves me, just for me! Then you click your heels three times and say, 'There's no place like home!' and  fall asleep to face another day.  

What I am saying here is that money can't buy that love.  Take some time with the one you love. Pleasures don't need to cost a dime. Share you life with the one you love and they can bring much pleasure. Whether its cleaning house, washing the car, pruning the garden, just put some fun in it.     And, enjoy, is the word I use here.  Enjoy their company! Enjoy it when you both are bent over the floor scrubbing that spot off the carpet! Enjoy the water play while washing the car! Enjoy wiping the sweat off each other's brow and other places while all hot and sweaty in the garden.  These things don't cost - they bring the achievement that you are still together and that eventually,you will enjoy that day of walking those zigzag streets of Venice.  

In the meantime, enjoy the simple pleasures- take a stroll along the beach, a walk in the park, grab some take out and eat romantically beside the river, go for a drive into the country.  Believe me these are the pleasures of life that money can't buy.

Cheers!

Bitchescoz

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