To say I am am angry is an understatement. This
cold arsed Queen is so outraged with the lack of support that was given from my
last blog, my tweets, my Facebook. I sent it to counsellors to politicians,
lawyers, police, other gay people. Did anyone respond even with a like (maybe
3). What was more disturbing is that,
not one person, who may have been able to help or offer some advice, even
bothered to comment, tweet or inbox me.
We as the LGBTQI community, ask for us gays to be equally accepted in the eyes of the law. We ask, quite rightfully, to be equally accepted in the world in general. However, do we think of anyone beyond our genitals, in regards to others, and their plight for equality? Do those who have suffered under inequality think of anyone beyond our own cause? I not really think so. We tend to be as narrow minded, and as selfish, as those that we accuse of bigotry toward us - only thinking self, and nothing of others that are suffering. Yes, marriage equality is important and I cannot wait to get married. But at this minute it is the farthest thing from my mind as I battle for recognition for the rights of the elderly to be safe from abuse and suffering.
I spoke last week of the fears I have for an
older gentleman who is in the hands of a woman who could no less be described
as a person with Munchausens by Proxy.
Sadly, if her victim was a child we would rally for the support of the
victim. However, her victim is an
elderly gentleman and as such, he of course does not count. It is fine to isolate, to mentally abuse, and
to lead this man to his maker, in an act that is nothing short of murder. But,
suspect the predator of abusing a child and, every law enforcement officer will
be keen to look into the case confidentially and with haste.
Not so for this gentleman! We need cold hard
facts to even get past first base. This is a load of crock. If I was to tell the police I suspected
someone of trafficking drugs they would look at this case immediately and, if
in so finding my suspicions were unwarranted, there would be no repercussions
but a thanks and you are looking out for your country.
But, try to look out for someone who has been
trodden to his death bed and fears for his safety! Try to change that he will
accept the outcomes of the murderer because that is all he has at this final
hour! I defy you to get past first base. You are stonewalled at every turn.
There are people in the medical industry who will give you advice, but they too
are hamstrung in how much they are actually able to do. There are government
agencies aplenty that supposedly support the elderly, report on nursing home
abuses, give advocacy to those unable to speak for themselves. However, there
is one hitch, the elderly person has to be declared ‘not to have capacity’! That is they are
unable to take responsibility for themselves. Whilst they have all their
faculties, even though they are trapped in an abusive situation there is
nothing that can be done without their consent.
I cry that we that have fought our case of
equality for all these years and really do not give a damn for anyone but
ourselves. Are we really that shallow that we can pass on this?
Are our legal people and counsellors that weak
that they cannot even offer a little concern, let alone grab it and run for
legislation to be passed on something so despicable?
This guy, family and friends contacted everyone
available to help on websites. Police,
elder abuse agencies, public guardian, psychologists at our own expense,
doctors, public forums, medical facilities, the director of nursing where the
patient resides, only to be cut down, to be treated without confidentiality, not
even a reply in many instances.
And in turn, the predator is advised of our
concerns, blocking every avenue by virtue of being this old lady who has her
husband’s best interests at
heart. Should I say his heart coz she is
the one, that is not only breaking his heart, but tampering with it through
medication - ooooops pandadol. This
woman who has done it all before and will in fact continue doing it till the
day she dies. I cannot understand how everyone says there is a case to answer
and yet, because the victim is old, he somehow does not count any more. He is
somehow less equal under the law.
We like, comment on and discuss a little puppy with a bent tail.
We discuss of the brutality of the Asians cooking live fish at the table of
restaurants but when it comes down to elder abuse, do we really care? Do we forget that one day (and it will move on
us fast) that day will come to us. We even tweet to everyone of our latest
novel of fiction and/or fantasy but this
to be real and happening, and no-one cares!!! God forbid us to share this real
live case for others to contemplate! God forbid we actually do something about
it. We hashtag #comeridewith me and feel like we have single handedly saved the
world. But, that is simply a feel good tick. This case is no less real than any
of the other atrocities and social issues that everyone hashtags but because
this is about the elderly who cares? #no-one
This case is fact so let us get behind our
elderly. Let us make sure that they are cared for in the manner they deserve.
Let us make sure they live out their twilight years in happiness and with
dignity. Let us not leave them to be abused and discarded on the scrap heap of
humanity. So as you fight your fight for LGBTQI equality, spare a thought for
an elderly learned gentleman, who earned not one, but two Victoria Crosses, in
World War 2. As you worry about your next broken fingernail. I will worry that
this old fellow will breathe his last as the world really does not give a damn.
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