Forbidden Fruit Revisited

This may set the theologian's hearts into a spin.  This may even give the fundamentalists a tremor in their pants but it has to be said.  Maybe the good book was intended to be different if dear little Eve wasn't so impatient? 

I pre-empt, as a gay guy knowing that guys to guys understand our bodies, more so than woman do.  We know what the pieces do and how far they can be stretched so to speak.  It is the same for women! My lesbian friends say that it is their knowing each others bodies that make it tick or do the trick. 

So having said that, could that be why God got a little tetchy when Eve jumped the gun or got a tad excited over Adam’s Guns?  After all he was created in God’s image, and that, apparently is perfect.  I am having visions of trying to hold myself back from Michelangelo’s David or Adonis.  I am pretty sure if he said hands off while I rest, I would be having troubles with the apple and my serpent as well, so Eve must be forgiven for her indiscretions.

Ok, God told them not to touch the tree of knowledge. Maybe, just maybe, God wasn't finished creating quite yet, and needed a little nanny nap to figure out reproductive organs etcetera. Maybe, just maybe, he told these two to wait until the jobs were finished.  Maybe, he was contemplating another Adam to fit in with Adam and another Eve to compliment Eve.  Just maybe, being gay was the way it was to be, and because Eve jumped Adam and got her leaf off, we have suffered since. 

Maybe,just maybe, we were set for a life of gay abandon till she stewed her apple! And, that is why God said, that in punishment, Adam was to make and collect food and Eve was to bear children with pain. 

God, if she had not interrupted the plan, the straights may be seeking equal rights today and not us. 

But seriously, both are great stories! However, no one is totally satisfied.  Both stories have merit but by all accounts God told them to hold back.  Not once did he say go for it while I sleep.  Maybe, just maybe, he only wanted to people on Earth that never gave him grand-kids. Maybe, he wanted to see them grow only as friends and not experience the problems of divorce, of sexuality, of raring kids, of growing old, and still needing to bonk.  Maybe, just maybe, he wanted his world to be two friends knowing true friendship and sharing life in general. God knows. 

Maybe God had no intention to have either of them looking over their shoulder to see who or what was judging them. After all, you can’t be persecuted for being just you and there is no one to judge but God himself!

I know if I was God, (a bit late now after going off about blowing my cherry over David and Adonis) no matter who I put on earth in my image, I would want for them to be free to be who they are.  Free, as long as they do not physically or mentally hurt anyone. And, never having to prove themselves to anyone but their God.  I know that I would want them to love genuinely and deeply.  I would want for them to know friendship, to know compassion, to know true acceptance and caring, and to give till the only pain was that of giving. 

This is how I would want my creation story to be passed down through the generations.  I would want for my religious interpreters, and leaders, to read my gospels filled with love, sharing and compassion.
These are my thoughts .

Cheers until next time 

Christmas Approaches #family #friendship #equality #festiveseason

As I have told you, we are off to Europe etc for a few months soon, and apart from the organising of travel and accommodation, all is sweet. There are no thoughts of stress and worry over the Christmas celebrations. We are going with three members of the family who are more friends than family and for the festivities we are meeting with dear friends. 

If you speak to most people single, straight, gay or indifferent, they all seem to have the angst of Christmas celebrations.  For a celebration that is meant to celebrate birth and new hope, it tends to give birth to anxiety, frustration, and fear of what may come of those days, spent together.  Strangely, most say that even though you may be around the corner, day in day out, from your family, the actual stress evolves from those that you see more regularly, than those you see only on special occasions.

This year we decided to take the leap and go it, with the ones that give us joy, the ones that you have no secrets from, those that have no hidden agenda, those that you feel safe and secure with.  Yes, you got it!  We chose these friends and they chose us!  Please God, make this be the best silly season we have ever experienced.  Make this a season of true spirit, true happiness, and true hope, for a better future.

No doubt there will be some pre-holiday jitters regarding Christmas presents and farewells to those we leave behind. But as we board that plane, those stresses will go in the cloud of dust that the plane leaves behind us.  I have always wondered why we put ourselves in these situations of stress, when basicall,y all involved are going through the same stresses as ourselves.  Each and everyone of us are feeling as we do, just from a different perspective.

Some may say that our decision to celebrate this Christmas with our immediate family and friends is selfish.  To those I say yes!  Yes, selfish to want to spend this season of rebirth with those from whom there is no hidden conversation, no worry of who should do this, or who should behave in a certain manner other than being yourself.

To those that believe that, I pray that your celebrations will go smoothly, stress free and will bring renewal to your life as intended traditionally.  For us, this will be a beginning of something new, something exciting, something that strays from the norm, but will hopefully take us into the New Year with a sense of purpose,  a sense of vigour and a true honesty to be who we are, and believe that we are all equal without agenda or secrets.

Friendship is a choice.  We all have acquaintance friendships but true friends are our choice to love, nurture, share the good times with the sad. Yes they are our chosen family. So this year we are celebrating in style, with family that have no barriers, no rules of protocol.  Our friendship family is one that lifts, fulfills, and brings life into our hearts. They give hope for a future of equality, and justice, for each and every being.

Throughout the course of our journeys we will share our experiences, our pics and ourselves along the way.  So stay in touch.  I love your emails.  Sharing and listening are the greatest gifts, I believe as it gives me a sense of unity with the world.

Until next time, stay safe, be kind to yourself and remember that alone we can move hills but together we can move mountains.

Cheers!

Bitchescoz

Contact: luke65mcbride@gmail.com

Is being Gay a Disability? #discrimination #gay #gender #society

It is no secret that my partner is deaf! When we are in a new surrounding, like a shop or meeting people for the first time, he says "I am deaf." For no other reason, than to bring to their attention, that there may be some differences in communication.  Never once have I heard him say "Hi, I'm deaf and gay." 

Quite often, we the gay people of this world, confuse others as to our birth right.  Yes, we were born this way!  We are not missing any parts for our bodily functions.  We are all in tact.  As far as I, and many others see it, it is just a descriptive adjective to our human status.  It is like we are people who happen to be gay. Like women, who are people, happen to be women.  Like my partner, he is a person that happens to be Asian.  We are all humans with the different description to our make up.  Each and every person on this earth has a description as to who we are.  We just want to be equal on the playing field of life.  No discrimination as to our sex, our colour or our religion.  We breathe, we have skin, we have emotions, we are all human and equal. 
 
I believe that for most, we just want to live our lives as normally as possible.  We don't need to be living in a commune of like minded people.  We want to live in a fully integrated society that sees and has no barriers. As for our descriptions, that is just a cover page to our life, and their are many varied and different novels in the world libraries.  Each book brings a different hue to the delicate weave of the fabric of society.  It  just happens that our thread is the colour of the rainbow.  The rich threads of each and every one of us when interwoven can make the most glorious of fabrics. 
 
There will always be writers clubs, artist gatherings, ethnic clubs, gay bars, women's and men's clubs, tennis clubs, bear clubs.  These clubs are there for those who have common interests so they can enjoy like minded activities. But when these institutions are closed and the activities over, we should be able to go to a home that is not segregated as to our individual lifestyles.  Surely, it would be better to look out our front doors and see that everyone is equal. That there is no difference to any of us, at the end of the day.  We don't have to enter a room and say "Hi I'm Gay". "Hi I'm a female!". There are very few with whom we cannot communicate. If we have to walk in and say "Hi I am gay!", so they feel they know how to communicate with me, then I should just walk past, not even bother, because those people are the bigots of the world.  Another descriptive word for humans, and in that case, they should be segregated like those before us.  

Quite often, when we are fighting for a cause we forget that there are others who are our allies. That we are preaching to, and sometimes alienating, the converted who believe in the same things that we strive for. They just happen to be of a different colour thread to ours. Whether it be the Women's Movement, the Gay Movement, or an Ethnic cause we all have common beliefs and goals.  If we are able to harness all of these goals and beliefs to a common cause, how powerful a force would that be and what a truly beautiful fabric would we weave?

Each and everyone of us is specially gifted. We are not disabled.  We are individual threads to the fabric of life.  We are only handicapped if we allow others, and ourselves, to believe that we are not equal.

Let our descriptive characters be only part of our overall lives.  We don't need to walk into a room and say - I am a gay human; I am a female human; I am a coloured human; I am a artist human.  Soon they will simply be descriptive names for the various clubs that we belong to for our collective get togethers, or better still relegated to the heap if extinct society taboos and attitudes. 

This is my goal anyway.

Cheers!

Bitches Coz

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You and Me against the World #acceptance #celebration #living

By the end of this you may think that it is an infomercial for Paul Williams, Joe Raposo and the Muppets. Their lyrics help me to reflect, to draw strength, to inspire and to believe.

In the next few days we, my partner and myself, will join the celebration of life for my great uncle.
A man who was loved, and cherished, by anyone who had the pleasure of meeting him.

In readiness for the celebration you recall his goodness and, as with all such occasions, many tears of joy and sadness emerge.  These are times when you draw on the people especially your partner to be big and 'strong and looking out for you'.  A time when you can simply feel the touch, draw strength from that arm around you.  Above all, not feel it is 'you and me against the world'.

You want to be 'green' and blend in with the establishment. Know that no one sees you as anything but the 'evergreen' tributes that sit before the alter.

On these occasions and many other occasions you don't necessarily want to be seen as the 'rainbow connection' to this great man.  You want to be seen as his family someone who is seen by your character not by your sexuality.  Someone who has depth, someone who cares, someone who has a love and is as committed to that love, as the ones around you.

We all draw strength from those around us. We all say how wonderful that husband was holding his wife's hand through the eulogy.  We see that as normal as the sun to our lives.  We see that sun peeking out of the clouds, gives us strength on those  'rainy days and Mondays'. Gives us warmth to 'see it through.'

As gay guys we need to be seen as normal human beings just like the rest of the world.  We long for our 'voice be one and the same'.  We long to be seen as 'something that we are supposed to be.' We long that we are 'more than visions not only illusions and have nothing to hide.'

For most of us, I believe, we want to be seen as equal as those that have fought the civil rites, and the women's rites movements before us.  We want to be seen as a huge melting pot of ideas, ideals with unity, and be the colour of Spring , a new beginning, a landscape of combined beauty.

This day is coming closer, but till then I ask, that all think how they would feel if they were in our shoes.  Do we need others to 'turn their back and walk away' and when your frightened by the clown need someone lookin' out for you.'

Of course we do!   I believe that 'SOONDAY we'll find it, the rainbow connection, the lovers the dreamers and me.'

God bless you Uncle Lance, and may we someday meet again in Paradise.

Cheers!

Bitchescoz

Contact: luke65mcbride@gmail.com

You And Me Against The World - Helen Reddy & Kermit - Muppet Show