In the advent of friends and relations dropping in this week due to a family gathering for a celebration of a life well lived, my dear partner decided to get out of the kitchen for a while. And, assume my position as vacuum maid.
He was doing really well for someone without the experience I possess. Despite the subtle hints of 'Did you move the couch?' 'Did you dust before you did the floor?' 'Don't bump our treasures on the stairs!' He had seemed to have acquired my skills simply through observation, and I was impressed! Especially impressed that he did not back chat me with my questions. Having seen his mastering of such a riveting and very prestigious position in the House of Lords, I was contemplating upping his rank to Domestic Welfare Minister.
This all took a very sour turn for the worse! Again, I was so impressed that he passed me with the dust canister to dispose of the sins of a few days grime to the refuse. That he cleaned the filter - I had not even known he had observed that skill ever! This is when I walked to the garden to see my beloved, hosing the life out of my trusted steed named Hoover. Before I could say 'What the?' he had immersed motor and all in a bucket, and was cleaning madly to make it look brand spanking new. You see, I have learned that yelling is of no consequence to a deaf man, and worse, when he removes his cochlear when playing in water. However he has learned the facial expressions of the Ice Queen, and immediately looked me in the eye for a compliment of how great of a job he had done. He knows that if he plays the innocent hand, he may win the trick.
So after a few 'How could you? 'Why did you?' 'Whenever did you see me do?' You figure as you throw trusted hoover in the bin, and you explain the consequences of water and electricity, that sometimes explanations and job descriptions should be initiated before you hand the reins over.
Are these things avoidable? Are they a gay thing? Are they merely a male thing where we assume we know everything?
In my venting to my best friend of today's occurrences, she reminded me of my romantic night where I lit candles too close to an electrical cable. She reminded me of the time when a cyclone was approaching with huge force. She had said, 'Immerse some of your outside stuff that could take flight into the pool.' I did of course, do what she had advised! But did she explain to me what stuff? No!!!! She assumed I knew what went in and what did not! Not once did she believe I would submerge the BBQ and my potted plants. Of which, the BBQ and the plants died a death owing to it being a salt water pool. Rust and a salt bath do not bring joy to foliage nor wrought iron, nor I may add to my pool man's face when he rocks up on his weekly visit to clean the pool.
No, I don't believe it is just a gay or male thing. Come on fess up! We all do silly things from time to time. It is not a male nor gay thing. It is not a female thing. It is not a thing of children.
It is that, we often take others for granted, that they have followed our lead. It is that, often we don't ask the experienced of what to do next. It is often that children do what their parents have done in the past and not realized the times, nor the situation, that they were in at the time. For example the child grows up, sets up house, invites the parents over for dinner. The mother sees the child prepare the lamb roast. Having watched the mother for years the new adult cuts the hock from the lamb throws it out to the dog. The mother onlooking, says to the child, 'Why did you cut off the hock and throw to the dog? It is the best meat.' The child turns to the mother and says, 'I have watched you do that all my life, so I did what you did.' The mother replied. 'I only did that because my baking dish was to small to fit it all in!'
This is where, none of us, do silly things because of a gender nor age. We simply do it, because we lack the knowledge. We don't ask questions. We assume too much. We don't open ourselves, to show others, that we need support. We don't take time to explain fully to others that are learning. Put simply, we need to communicate!
Therefore we all must learn to communicate, offer help, accept constructive advice, and return it with a thank-you, you saved my life.
Now we are off to the electrical store to purchase a water-proof vacuum cleaner.
Cheers!
Bitchescoz
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